Why Are People Put Off By The Word “Spirituality”

When I tell people that I’m a spiritual life coach, all kinds of misconceptions will surface and people have all kinds of ideas about who I am. Everything but what I really do and who I really am.

Some misconceptions include:

  • I am highly religious and I am preaching a certain religion (I am not religious at all, I do not enjoy institutionalised spirituality)
  • I belong to a cult or some weird spiritual order (Not that I am aware of, I do not belong to any groups)
  • I am a psychic with a crystal ball and I can predict the future or see their future (I am intuitive but I do not want to predict or see the future because it is not empowering)
  • I can see ghosts everywhere (I don’t tune into their frequencies. Why would anyone do that?)
  • I read their aura and energy all the time (I do not invade into people’s energy fields this way, I only do it with my clients, with their permission)
  • I only work with people who are into psychics or want to know their future (I work with all kinds of people and most are NOT into predicting their future. They are simply looking for someone to help them make better life choices)

What I really do:

  • I coach people to make better life choices
  • Help them to achieve their goals
  • Guide them with authentic feedback and honesty
  • Help them to realise their purpose on earth on the personal level as well as in their work
  • Assist business owners to know their purpose in what they do

Other bonuses: I am highly intuitive and I am gifted with clairvoyance. I use these gifts to empower my clients, not to disempower them.

What is the difference between empowering someone and disempowering someone? To empower someone means to make available the choices they have, and guide them to make the choice that they want, and share with them the pros and cons of each choice, and it is ultimately the choice of the client. To disempower someone means to not give options to someone but to make them take the choice you want them to take, just because you think it is a better choice for them.

I make others more powerful than they already are. And this is what I enjoy most — seeing my clients as little buds at first, and then blossoming into a beautiful flower with all of their beauty, strength and grandiosity because they become who they are meant to be.

So let’s get back to the original question of why are people put off by the word – Spirituality?

Well, as with any form of lifestyle or practice, there will always be people who take things to the extreme. And this is best illustrated by JP Sears on social media where he takes a piss out of extremists whether it is in yoga practice, veganism, meditation and so on. He makes them so humorous in his videos but they contain so much truth, of how ridiculous we can be when we take things too far.

The world of “Spirituality” has its fair share of negative connotations attached to it, and I really do not blame people who are not familiar with this to be put off. There are just too many quacks and weird beliefs being dished out as if they are absolute truths.

For me, and how I educate my clients — Spirituality is about Knowing Self and Listening To The Wisdom within. I teach my clients to honour themselves, to know and love themselves. I do not believe that one can fully be devoted to a Higher Order Or Higher Being if one is not attuned to themselves first. It has nothing to do with religion.

When one is in tune with Self, then whatever beliefs that one has, or whatever religion or practice that one has, become so much more meaningful because the basis for all of these is the ability to empower Self to make that choice of belief.

Spirituality is much more than a set of beliefs outside of self, spirituality is about Self. 

© 2017 Shamala Tan

Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer.  Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.

One of her success stories as an author is to be featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.