In the world of abbreviations and fast food, we are consciously or unconsciously looking for quick fixes for everything, even to heal broken bits of ourselves. Whether it is the physical, mental or emotional pain, we search for quick fixes so that we can end the suffering as soon as possible.
I have learned that there is a big difference between pain and suffering. Sometimes, we think we are in pain when in truth we are suffering. Or vice versa. So what is the difference?
Pain, the way I see it, is an acute sensation that is unpleasant/uncomfortable usually caused by an injury or illness.
Suffering, on the other hand, is the state of experiencing pain. This means that, even if the pain has subsided, one can still be suffering because they are still in the state of pain.
An example of this would be someone who fell, and he crushed his kneecaps badly, and he is in pain. However, even after he has been healed, the person can still be suffering from the fall as the person is always thinking of the fall and feeling out of sorts and perhaps even fearful that he might fall.
So one can be in pain, yet not suffer.
Below are Three Quick Fixes for when you are feeling emotionally low. They do not necessarily work if you are suffering emotionally, so please seek professional help (We’re rooting for you!).
Drink lots of water
This is something I’ve been reminding my daughter since she was very little. Whenever she is upset, I will ask her to drink water; it is a good self-soothing tool, plus it helps to flush toxins out of our system. I also tell her, never to eat when she is upset because she will only be stuffing her feelings down and it is not healthy in the long term. My daughter is now almost 13, and she still keeps this in mind when she feels emotionally low. She reaches out for water, and abstain from eating until she feels much better.
Seems like a no-brainer. But have you realised that you do not breathe deeply when you are stressed? And you may even be holding your breath! Breathing mindfully relaxes our entire body, and is extremely nourishing for our entire system. Plus the increased intake of oxygen helps us to think clearly so that we can develop a new or fresh perspective on things, without getting too emotionally drained.
Write down your thoughts
I have found this very effective for me since I was a teen. I remember feeling woozy from all the thoughts and feelings surfacing (teenage angst), and they prevented me from sleeping well. The thoughts and feelings kept surfacing in the middle of the night in loops, that I felt like a broken record. One day, I discovered that by writing my thoughts and feelings down, I stopped the loop. So it has been my lifelong practice ever since. This is also a practice that I encourage all my clients to use, and the feedback I have received have mostly been positive.
Keeping a journal is almost magical. It takes what is in the ethers and contains them in those pages, to prevent them from going on a rampage.
I hope you will find these Three Quick Fixes helpful. I’ve also done a 38sec video on this, see above to watch it. Do share with your friends and family; they might need the extra help.
(Remember to seek the right professional help if you need further assistance in your mental and emotional health.)
Have a great week ahead!
Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.
One of her success stories as an author is to be featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.
Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.