Earlier this year I wrote an article on 52 Things To Help You Live More Fulfilling Lives In The 52 Weeks of 2010 (http://tinyurl.com/25wh5j7) I think they are pretty much still applicable to 2011. Do check it out. 
Today I share with you Eight Principles to help you to maintain and achieve your goals for 2011.
1. After thinking and writing down your goals, ask yourself how are you doing to achieve them. Too many people set goals without thinking about how to achieve them — thinking through this will also help you to see if your goals are realistic or not.
2. If you don't know how to achieve them or lack information on how to achieve them, learn! You could search out a mentor, coach, read a book or attend a course. This should not be a reason for not being able to achieve your goals.
3. Set realistic deadlines. It would be best to set an overall goal for the year, and then break them up into months, and then weeks. This way, you will find that your goals are actually not as overwhelming as you thought and are easily achievable.
4. One of the sabotaging factors in achieving goals is the tendency to set unrealistic deadlines. I know because I've done this before. When you set unrealistic deadlines, either too far down the road which may make you procrastinate further, or too tight a deadline at the expense of lacking balance in your life, you will want to stop going for your goals. This is why making the adjustments on the weekly or monthly basis is wise.
5. However, it is important to be honest with self, and not let the procrastinating nature come up with excuses to keep changing the deadlines!
6. Be specific in your whats and hows. If you are not specific enough, you will not be able to achieve them because you did not give yourself instructions to do so. Just as when you employ someone to work for you, and if you do not train your staff to do them with a proper system, your staff will not be able to help you to achieve the results. Same with yourself, you are your own 'employee' in this sense.
7. Set up systems. Everything we do must have a system. From taking care of our health, achieving financial goals, improving relationships to everything else. A system keeps you in check and allows you to follow the steps without you wasting too much time thinking about how, what, where every single time. Use the system and save time, save energy.
8. Look into what are some of your internal laws. These internal laws are governing ideas ingrained in your mindset and habits that are sabotaging you constantly. For example, if you would never dare to speak up because your internal law says that you are not supposed to because you are not knowledgeable enough then you need to change this internal law. Other internal laws we may have include, "we can't do this what will people think!", or "I don't think it is my divine path to be rich because I want to focus on being spiritual in this lifetime". These are obviously self imposed laws that only serve to hold you back and make you small.
I wish you the best in 2011 and may all your goals be attained at the highest level possible!
© 2010/2011 Shamala Tan
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Dec 10
7
Why Did God Put Wasps On Earth?
This is a funny story.
My daughter was stung by a wasp in England sometime in August. From then on, she has been fearful of insects.
Last night she was so spooked by a housefly in the bathroom that she started crying and lamenting about her wasp sting and then she asks: Why did God put wasps on earth? I am a vegetarian I do not kill or hurt animals and i love animals. Why did the wasp sting me? Why didn't the wasp love me?
Difficult questions to answer to a five year old.
What is interesting for me is to observe how a five year old has so easily caught the dis-ease of the negative ego! I think whoever is born into this planet just catches this virus and the only way to combat this virus is simply to develop a strong psychological immune system in accordance to Dr Joshua Stone.
Without sounding like I am not a compassionate mother, my five year old was playing the role of the victim, just like how most people would react to the world and things around them.
I explained to her that the wasp was simply protecting itself for fear of being killed as she laid her hand on the wasp without realising it was there, explaining further that it was an accident. Unfortunately a five year old doesn't care about the idea of self preservation of a wasp, only how hurt she was. And she cried even louder! Lol!
She was more hurt emotionally than physically. She was hurt that in her quest to express her love for animals, the animal kingdom didn't love her back — it seemed to her like an unrequited love.
So my job as a parent is to try to undo everything she has picked up energetically and psychologically from the world. It is literally a putting out fire task until she is able to grasp psychological concepts when she is much older and able to hold her own.
This is quite an adventure for us, and look forward to more tears, fun, challenges and who knows what when she enters her teenage years…
© 2010 Shamala Tan www.shamalatan.com/public
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Nov 10
23
Focus
I'm sure all of us have heard this before — if we need to succeed in something we need focus. But for most of us, focus is just a concept. We think we know what is focus, and we think we are focused on getting the results we want.
However, if the results are not what our goals are, then it is obvious that there was no focus in the first place. Yet our minds doesn't allow us to comprehend this. It 'lies' to us, or better yet we rational-lies (I heard this word not long ago and thought, wow! so clever!) and tells us that we have been focused. Then we start blaming circumstances, other people, the weather for everything that is not going right in our lives. We start struggling, and so the cycle of failure, lack, victim consciousness begins, yet again.
Let me share my experience.
It is funny how I thought I had focus in everything I do, turns out that actually that I have not been as focused as I thought! I had this moment over the weekend that this realization hit me — the goal I have in my mind to achieve did not materialize. I know some of you may think, maybe I am being hard on myself. But this is not the point of this sharing.
My point is that I THOUGHT I had this certain level of focus, my conscious mind tells me that I do. But as I was observing and logging down my energies, actions, thoughts, feelings, I was in reality not living this focus that I thought I had. In other words, what my mind tells me and what I am actually embodying are not the same.
At the same time, it makes me quite happy LOL! Because this means that if I can conceive it in my mind that I have this certain level of focus, it means that I just need to make a few minor adjustments and bring myself up to the level that I KNOW I am capable of.
So what I did yesterday was just that, making the adjustments in my thoughts, feelings, actions etc and bringing myself up to the level that my mind tells me I am capable of. And I achieved more than I have ever in my working day. It was exhilarating!
You could apply this to anything in life. If you think you have done your best, you probably didn't. (Remember the mind is good with rational-lies). You need to be honest and truthful with yourself and look into every aspect of what you are thinking, feeling and behaving.
Now I am looking forward to another brand new day and thinking and adjusting myself into a new level.
© Shamala Tan 2010
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Nov 10
9
Practice Compassion
Having compassion towards the person who attacks you benefits both of you. I received an attack email from someone some weeks back accusing me of being unethical and irresponsibility in not quite the same words. Essentially I was accused of something I did not do.
I understood why the person was so angry and I felt real compassion for her. This made me realize something, that the compassion I felt not only positively affected me because it allowed me to practice a quality of God, it will also positively affect her whether she knows it or not.
By feeling compassion for her I have cut the cycle of negativity which might otherwise have the potential to escalate out of control thereby pulling her and myself into deeper negative karmic ties.
The words “practice compassion” have never meant more than it did for me on that day. My master teachers taught me well.
Copyright 2010 Shamala Tan
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Oct 10
10
“Your ego is not your amigo”
I was listening to a conference call on marketing and John Assaraf, the guest speaker said this very funny but true line: your ego is not your amigo!
Indeed if we think that our ego, or negative ego as we call it at the I Am University is our friend then we have set ourselves up for the negative path.
All too often we hear the voice of temptations and do not realise it is the negative ego. We think it is our body elementals, our intuition, our higher guidance when it is the voice of the negative ego. So how do we differentiate the voices? Very simple. If the voice promotes fear on any level, pulls us back and makes us smaller then we are meant to be, if the voice gives excuses, or tells us lies. If we really listen we will be surprised by how much this voice does control our life, from the minor stuff to the more major aspects of our life. The ego is really not our amigo, it puts us down instead of lifting us up.
To master self, we have to find the right amigos/friends! Our best friend is in God, spirit, masters, earthly friends who uplift us, and most of all we must get to know our closest and innermost friend – our Mighty I Am Presence. It is our true friend who will lead us to God.
Have a wonderful weekend with your amigo! 
Copyright 2010 Shamala Tan
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Oct 10
5
Automatic Disempowerment
One of the most common pattern of behaviour in which I have noticed in people is their desire to automatically disempower themselves.
All too often my own clients would say to me, “why don’t you decide on what is best for me, after all you are good at what you do” I think they have missed the whole point. I may be good at what I do, but I am not good at deciding on what is best for them. They have to decide for themselves. After all my work is to serve to empower them, not disempower.
I think people automatically disempower themselves when they are in the presence of someone they perceive as knowing better, or has more knowledge etc because the ‘role models’ most of us grew up with did not empower us. They dish out answers and formulas to us.
As a parent, I am concern about finding the fine line between empowering and guiding my child versus telling my child what to do. And in some situations, it is indeed necessary to tell my child what to do. I also think it comes down to being age appropriate in instructions. I can’t expect my child to run when she is still crawling, so the same applies to how I empower her.
Unfortunately in the world we live in, most people are still not equipped psychologically for their age. Many are disempowering themselves automatically.
I like this quote: You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood. However, as an adult, you are one hundred percent responsible for fixing it. ~ Ken Keyes, Jr.
How true.
© 2010 Shamala Tan
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Sep 10
29
Lower the volume…
Hi everyone, here’s my first blog entry on this site that is long overdue! I hope you’ll enjoy reading my personal account on my journey to God and Self Realisation.
I was scheduled to give a talk yesterday at a bank on the subject of Mental Resilience. When I arrived, I was told that the talk was actually re-scheduled. I told the bank that the organiser even contacted me the day before to remind me of the talk. The bank insisted it has been changed and told me to speak to the organiser. This is obviously a communication issue between the two parties, and I was sandwiched in between.
I was perfectly calm and at peace with this. But at the same time I was aware of the chatter in the background in my mind saying, so just because those two have communication issues, I am the one at the losing end, who is going to pay me for my time for traveling all the way? Who is going to be responsible for this?
I realised that as I listened more to the chatter, it got louder and louder. The chatter also reminded me that I should make a fuss and big deal out if this. Quickly I imagined a volume dial and I lowered the volume of the chatter until it was no longer audible. And I increased the feeling of peace within me, choosing to tune into the real me.
I left the bank and called the organiser to sort this out. My lesson in this is not to let it affect my internal peace. It is none of my business what the other people’s lessons are.
Copyright 2010 Shamala Tan
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May 10
19
Greetings!
Hi everyone, this is my website dedicated to the I AM University’s curriculum in apprenticeship and coaching. I will share tips and information on my journey using the curriculum of the I AM University, what I have learned and what I enjoy. I will also keep you posted on my upcoming workshops and classes.
Blessings!
Shamala
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